Gestalt Processes Simplified  gestfritz

Introjection,  Projection, Confluence and Retroflection.

 

 

An individual must learn to balance and adjust to fitting his/her boundaries into a socially acceptable gestalt.  Many

med1disturbances in individuals arise from the inability to find and maintain the proper balance between self and the rest of the world, boundaries are the way in which discernment is allowed to protect him/her against the threat of being overcrowded with unnecessary stimulation from the rest of the world.  We have a great need to form these boundaries and a structure.  Many side effects occur when improper boundaries are not set:  addictions, disease, aches and pains, antisocial behaviors, codependency, and many more which I am sure you can identify without my help.

 

 

 

INTROJECTION—-Introjections are undigested attitudes, ways of acting, feeling and evaluating,  that we swallowed whole, usually from our primary caretakers, however anyone who was a main character in our early lives would be a person to whom we looked as a “rule giver”.  Introjects are undiscerned pieces of the whole which we  never analyzed before we took them into our psychological system; they often form the SHOULDS and OUGHT TO’s in our make-up.  To be REAL and in touch with our own integrity and morality we must digest and master what is truly our own, truly a part of the personality.  Bit if we simply accept these rules and beliefs whole-hog and gestparentuncritically, on someone else’s say so, or because they are fashionable or safe or traditional or unfashionable or dangerous or revolutionary—they lie heavily on us—introjects become undigested materials. They are still foreign bodies even though they may have taken up residence in our minds.  Many times, one can see blocks of energy around the stomach area (unusual protection of the undigested material).  The dangers of introjections are two fold; first of all, the man who introjects never gets a chance to develop his own personality, because he is so busy holding down the foreign bodies he has swallowed whole.  The more introjects he has saddled himself with, the less room there is for him to express or even discover what he himself is.  And in the second place, introjections contributes concepts, you may find yourself torn to bits in the process of trying to reconcile them.  And this is a fairly common experience today.  We end up incorporating into ourselves standards, attitudes, ways of acting and thinking, possibly coming from mother and father, which are not truly ours.  Introjection moves the boundary between ourselves and the rest of the world so far inside ourselves that there is almost nothing of us left.  I look at clients whose  language reflects many shoulds, trying to get permission, etc.  Or one who is very angry and does not have anyway of expressing that anger, so it lies in the stomach area.  Women introject many shoulds around how you are suppose to be a mother/wife…SHOULD, SHOULD,. Until they have had all they can take and develop a physical ailment in the female parts of the body, breasts, uterus, etc.  The extrication of these introjects and the examining and discernment process need to take place in order for healing to occur.  Identifying the Shoulds, and Ought to Bee’s in our lives is one great step to solving the extrication.

 

 

Projection —– Reverse of introjection.

 

As introjection is the tendency to make the self responsible for what actually is part of the environment, so projection is the tendency to make the environment responsible for what originates in the self.  Clinically, we recognize that the disease of paranoia, which is characterized by the development of highly organized system of delusions, is the extreme case of projection…..that is not what we are talking about. Here…this is the projections of which we are all guilty, like the highly aggressive personality who, unable to bear the responsibility for his own wishes, feelings, and gestprojdesires, attaches them to objects or people in the environment who will hold the projection and fit the pattern beautifully.  A person who feels he is being persecuted unfairly, in fact may be making the statement that he would like to persecute others.  That which you have tremendous energy to unload on others, is often very true of SELF….In projection, then, we shift the BOUNDARY between ourselves and the rest of the world a little too much in our own favor—in a manner that makes it possible for us to disavow and disown those aspects of our personalities which we find difficult or offensive or unattractive.  And this is very important….IT IS OUR INTROJECTS THAT LEAD US TO THE FEELINGS OF SELF-CONTEMPT AND SELF-ALIENATION THAT PRODUCE PROJECION.   The over-wary, over-cautious person, who tells you he wants friends and wants to be loved, but who tells you at the same time that “you can’t trust anyone, they’re all out for what they can get,” is a projector par excellence.

 

When working with people listen to how many times they talk about someone else, either positive or negative, (positive projections are as important to own, as are negative ones), they will use You…much of the time, second person in their verbalizations.  Gossip is something that Fritz Perls never allowed in the Gestalt Community…as it was about someone to someone else. instead of face to face,  projections run rampant in gossip.

 

Gestalt work is a very hard-nosed therapy, but, it really stresses honesty with self . If we clean up our own psychology, then, it makes the world a better and more ethical place to be, because we are essentially not going around messing on other people with our projections.  Ask yourself before you are making a judgment of another, are you sure that it is not you, you are talking about?

 

CONFLUENCE….

 

Boundaries are very diffused when we are confluent, as confluence indicates that the individual feels no boundary at all between himself and his environment, when he feels that he and it are one…he is in CONFLUENCE…Parts and whole are indistinguishable from one another…..The person in whom confluence is a severe state cannot tell what he gestboundariess or feels and cannot tell what other people are or feel….He feels all of the feelings and all of the emotions and identity, without boundaries.  As he is unaware of the boundary between himself and others, he cannot make good contact with them.  Nor can he withdraw from them.  Indeed, he cannot even make contact with himself….This has serious social consequences too.  In confluence, ONE DEMANDS LIKENESS AND REFUSES TO TOLERATE ANY DIFFERENCES. We find this in parents whose children become merely extensions of themselves.  Such parents lack the appreciation that their children are bound to be unlike them in at least some respects.  Grammatically, you can pick up confluence to a degree, by the person’s over usage of the word  “we”, speaking for all instead of speaking for SELF.  When one is counseling or listening to another, often there are tears on both sides…or even when tears flow, it is a state of confluence.  Confluence is necessary for a counselor to feel compassion, but also the counselor must have the ability to attach.  The healer can feel and see into the body…but, must become removed from the body to objectify the knowledge. and do what is necessary to heal…

 

 

 

 

 

RETROFLECTION   the last of the Gestalt defense mechanisms…we use to set boundaries…

 

Retroflection, literally means “turning back sharply against.”  The retroflection knows how to draw a boundary line between him and the environment,  and he draws a neat and clean one right down the middle–but he draws it down the middle of himself.  THE INTROJECTOR DOES AS OTHERS WOULD LIKE HIM TO DO, THE PROJECTOR DOES UNTO OTHERS WHAT HE ACCUSES THEM OF DOING TO HIM, THE CONFLUENT PERSON DOESN’T gestaltretrofKNOW WHO IS DOING WHAT TO WHOM, AND THE RETROFLECTOR DOES TO HIMSELF WHAT HE WOULD LIKE TO DO TO OTHERS. When a person retroflex behavior, he treats himself as he originally wanted to treat other persons or objects.  He stops directing his energies outward in attempts to manipulate and bring about changes in the environment that will satisfy his needs; instead, he redirects his activity inwards and substitutes himself in place of the environment as the target for behavior.  To the extent that he does this, he splits his personality into doer and done to.  He literally becomes his own worse energy.

 

 

Again the grammatical usage of the client can reveal which of the processes is working at any given moment…As introjection displays itself in the use of the pronoun “I” when the real meaning is “they;” as projection displays itself in the use of the pronouns,  “you”, “it”, or “they,”  when the real meaning is “I”  as confluence displays itself in the use of the pronoun “we” when the real meaning is in question;  so retroflection displays itself in the use of the reflective, “myself”. The retroflection says, “I am ashamed of myself,” or “I have to force myself to do this job.”   He makes an almost endless series of statements of this sort, all of them based on the surprising conception that he and himself are two different people.

 

 

 

 

 

Related imageThis is the moment… Today. What will you release? What dysfunction can you drop? What story will you put to rest? What doubts will you pack away? What door will you close behind you? What choice will you now make? What change will you initiate? What new experience will you invite? What life will you let yourself have? What experience of you can you expand into? How much love will you let in? Can you take in the success and abundance you deserve? Are you ready to allow all of you? Will you share all of you with the rest of the world? Will you shine your Light? Will you…? Will YOU!

Intentional Coaching — Affirmations of Points of Power

(I have taken some of the work of the Secret, Rhonda Byrne, and incorporated some tasks from each of these points of power.  Meditate on these and apply them to your life on a daily basis and see how powerful they allow you to have what you want. This is a step by step approach to affirm for yourself as many of us do not know how to reframe and affirm in words what we need.)

  1.  To harness the force of love in your life to bring something you want or change something you don’t want, the Creation Process is always the same:  Imagine it. Feel it. Receive it. (What are three things you want to change in your life?)

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  1. Your imagination connects you to what you want.  Your desire and feelings of love create the magnetism, the magnetic power, drawing your desire to you! (Find a space that allows your ‘love’ to come through, feeling your heart expand and your mind free of clutter.  (Name three things that allow you to know you are in that space.)

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  1. Imagine yourself being with your desire.  At the same time, feel love for what you’re imagining. (Name three things or processes which you desire and be specific as to how they look to you once they are manifested.)

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  1. Desire what you want with all of your heart because desire is a feeling of love, and you must give love to receive what you love! (Name three ways that you know you are giving love and be specific as to knowing when you are in a ‘love space’.)

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  1. When you imagine anything positive that you want and love, you are harnessing the force of love.  Push your imagination to the limits, and imagine the best and highest that you possibly can of whatever it is that you want. (If you want to leave your creativity on this earth before you go onto the beyond, name three things you want to be remembered for.)

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  1. Whatever desire you can imagine already exists!  It doesn’t matter what it is:  if you can imagine it, it already exists in creation. (Look around you and see if what you desire is present in your life in some form or manner.  Name how that looks to you now.)

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  1. In conversations and in your thoughts say, “Imagine if……” and then complete the sentence with what you want. (Name three things you imagine.)

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  1. Use props.  Surround yourself with items of clothing, pictures, photographs, and relevant objects, so you can imagine and feel the feelings of having what you want.

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  1. Your senses are props too.  Use all your senses to help you feel that you have what you want.  Feel it, taste it, smell it, see it, and hear it! (Describe in details how you are sensing, not thinking through this.)____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

 

  1.  When you have completed your part in the creation process, you have moved into a new world that contains the very thing you want even if you can’t see it yet.  Know you will receive it.! (Tell how you will know you are getting what you want.  Describe that in detail.)__________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

 

 

 

Image result for dream symbolism picsIntentional Coaching   —- Following your Intention, Inspiration and Intuition — Manifesting daily, weekly, monthly, yearly all that you are meant to be and more.  Your intuition and wisdom is your best guide in all things.

 

….immediate condition of your life and how you have manifested what you want and don’t want.  Do you know the difference?

  1.  Your existing relationship to Self __________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
  2. Your existing relationship to a partner____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
  3.  Your existing relationship with your children and/or siblings __________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
  4. Your existing relationship to your career _______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
  5. Your existing practice in your Spiritual connection (meditation, crafting, exercise, massage, music, creative arts) ____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

 

  1.  What changes do you want to make in all of the above areas, be specific?

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Are you serious about your growth Spiritually, Physically and Mentally?  It will happen and IS happening, you are being guided at all times by your inner guides and your relationship to God.  Spend some quality time filling this out so we can speak to it in our next session.  This is for you to understand YOU.  This is not something that you have to turn in, or will be judged. Affirm for yourself:

“Meditation allows me to make conscious contact with my Source and regain my power of intention.”

 

 

Image result for Kali picsGAIA GONE MAD 

The Feminine in Hysteria – Kali Erupting

(written after the oil spill in the Gulf of Mexico…and also spurred on by other earth changes)

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By Gwynne Mayer                              

 

 

After I perused a dream of my Jungian friend and then contemplated and gave some feedback late one evening,  I had this connection in my dream…I am wondering how many connections I get because of the male mind, crying out to me in dreams. How much of the feminine in me is raging at the HYSTERIA OF GAIA….she has been SPILT UPON (BP),  CHEMICALIZED, and her senses have been handled with PERVERSITY.  I am watching the incredibly few males in my life who think and act in depth receive the hysteria of the women they have chosen to be in ‘partnership’ (part-in-her) and I see the perverse sexual connection, often only implied from the father to the female child, as the seat of these issues….some of the perversity took place as actual molestation, but as Freud later reported after his ‘seduction theory’ hysteria could be in the mind and the fantasy of the child…..I think it goes more deeply into the archetypal world of the primal feminine….not to mention the story of Gaia, the primal TITANIC force that united with URANUS….in birthing our OLYMPIC FAMILY….Right now, in astrology, Uranus is opposing Saturn, squaring Pluto (will be in orb for  the next six months at least) ….so I imagine, that in the ethers are many in depth chaotic dreams coming to the forefront. I had made a decision about two days ago to clean out my body, to allow for healing and growth to take place by way of putting ‘green’ back into my system, thriving on live foods instead of dead foods….and I really came to this conclusion as I know I have to physically withstand the CHAOS OF GAIA in this build up to 2012…which  is at its peak right now.  I have so much more to say on this and will start writing and putting some things out on my site….however notice in your own families how the female has gone ‘nuts’ in many instances….a silent or open hysterical reaction to everything SHE feels has RAPED her mind, heart and soul.  Hysteria is the unconscious going mad, rebelling against everything that is  in front of one’s projections in the external world.  It is an over and overt reaction to what IS.  Gaia has lost touch with her senses and we have helped that by muddying up our existence so that it shows grave disrespect on our parts.  We are part of the problem.

 

It becomes important …so very important to me to listen to the intimate connection I have to the males in my life…it spurs the reaction of the primal feminine in me…the mother earth, the GAIA..  We can always go to Wikipedia and see the myth in its encyclopedic form, however we need to realize that the archetype of Gaia is alive and well, screaming and screeching at us to pay attention to how we are perverting her efforts to come closely into alignment with our environments.  http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gaia_(mythology)   When we are up against major constellations in this year of 2010, moving into 2012, we are in the midst of our own hysteria, chaos or whichever name you want to give it.  The masculine is being repressed, manipulated by his inner feminine who is going completely hysterical at this point.  The feminine is holding the masculine hostage, waiting for the final, “I’m sorry, I didn’t mean to treat you this way.”  SHE is doing this with an undertone of  “Vengence is mine!”  We have all sorts of names for this in psychology however it doesn’t match the intensity as it affects more than fifty  percent of our population, those who can sensitize themselves to the spiritual and archetypal world, striving to bring us into wholeness…the internal becomes external until we can assimilate and bring our body, minds and souls into a capable earth movement toward reconnecting to ‘oneness’. We are all in the ‘soup’ as CG Jung says succinctly.  Thank the Gods for Carl Jung, Joseph Campbell and the pioneers who brought the archetypes to life, and the myths into the 21st century.

 

What we see around us is women trying to communicate their emotional content and it is contaminated with perversity of childhood issues, men trying to receive emotional content from the anima (feminine self) and it is contaminated with some of the same matching issues….We are matching up our hysteria, our rape of the psyche and our emotional chaotic fluids.  We can see hysteria when the emotions are like those of a child, where the ‘thinking’ mechanism no longer works to ‘figure it out’.  We are all caught up in it.  Many females suppress any hysterical reaction due to their introversion or repression of expression…..but the underlying feeling is one of hysteria.  We can read the etiology of hysteria from a Freudian viewpoint.  It is similar to an orgasm of expression rather than a sexual orgasm, a frustration gone wild.  http://courses.washington.edu/freudlit/Hysteria.Notes.html This phenomena is affecting our sexuality and our relationship  to our spiritual Self in ways that we are burying in our unconscious and putting on a shelf to think about later.  We are attracted to people in our lives who fill in the void, fill in our inferior functions, then subliminally dishonoring the very people who offer us our balance point.  (See Psychological Types, Myers-Briggs as to your type and your inferior processes)

 

 

Jung went through several stages of beliefs about hysteria….some of them stemming from his work with Breuer and Freud, but he also takes the whole energy of hysteria to a deeper level and associates to the unconscious.  These quotes are taken from his first volumes of his letters:

“I have a feeling I am practicing vivisection on human beings with intense inner resistance.  It seems that introversion leads not only, as in hysteria, to a recrudescence of infantile memories abut also to loosening up of the historical layers of the unconscious, thus giving rise to perilous formations which come to light only in exceptional cases.” (12 June 1911)

Jung understands hysteria as a result of repression and suppression of what Freud calls the incest wound and what is later, in Jung’s work about the primitive condition of the archetypal incestuous life as lived out in primitive tribes which he studies as well as the collective unconscious which carries forward this ‘incestuous woundedness’, real or imagined.   He believed differently than Freud who believed in repression/suppression;  he  believed that these wounds come from our collective unconscious and surface when the external world calls them out.  According to Jung both go back to the primal conditions in the original family archetypes.  He sums this up in a 17 May 1912 letter:

“Like the stones of a temple, the incest taboo is the symbol or vehicle of a far wider and special meaning which has little to do with real incest as hysteria with the sexual trauma, the animal with the bestial tendency and the temple with the stone  (or better, with the primitive dwelling from whose form it is derived.”

 

Needless to say, our reality today is about dealing with a disrupted and hysterical Gaia, the feminine soul of man, the ‘anima’.  There are a myriad of ways that this is being acted out around us….just look around.  How many people today suffer from labels, such as bi-polar disorders, mood disorders, anxiety disorders, not to mention depression as a total stifling of hysteria gone under.  Jung believed it was a compensation for our weaker type, whether it be thinking, intuition, feeling or sensation.  You can find out what type you are by going to http://www.personalitypathways.com/type_inventory.html  and test for your own typology, with the Myers-Briggs.  I mentioned this before because we are attracted to those missing elements in our lives and we need relationships which balance this out.  I am an intuitive/thinking type and my inferior functions are sensation/feeling.  As I go into my late sixties, I finally realize that I draw to me and am attracted to the sensing/feeling ‘other’ to help me balance this out, however my best friends and connections are intuitive/thinking types.  It is uncomfortable to be around those inferior functions, at the same time, we NEED them in our lives for balance.  Gaia is out of balance right now and so are each of us in that we are distancing ourselves from the very thing we need to fill the voids within.

 

We are all dealing with the ‘hunger issues’ of the mother earth and her infliction into our unconscious where we can no longer fill her needs through trying to assuage that hunger.  We eat when we are hungry don’t we?  Or do we use food as a way of avoiding our own hysteria, our own feelings, senses, etc.?  I recently watched Oprah Winfrey interview the author of Women Food and God, Geneen Roth.  She spoke to the ‘hunger’ as something we ignore and either don’t eat when we are hungry or don’t know when to stop because we are not paying attention to when we are full.  Are we so out of touch in our society as to the message that food (another one of Gaia’s presents) represents instead of _____ to fill the void?  What is the void we are trying to fill, the emotional void?  Hysteria is knowing we are hungry for something and frantically eating anything to fill this hole in us.  Maybe our hunger is not about food and never has been.

 

Now that you have read my rant on this subject, I would love to hear how it has been affecting you  in your life.  Many of my ideas come from those who take the time to write about their feelings and connections to life.  This is important to meditate on as we move into 2012.  It is all kind of exciting in a way.  We chose to be here NOW.