The question, who am I, has sometimes been called Gurdjieff’s first question, and it is followed by the gurdjendless related second question: what is the purpose of human life?

In brief, we can say that mankind is faced with a problem of identity.  We do not know who we are, where we came from, or why we are here.  As we explore Gurdjieff’s teaching, we are led to see that the root of the mystery lies at the root of our own being, somewhere in our awareness, in our consciousness.   We discover that by becoming aware of our consciousness, we become more conscious; our self-consciousness becomes “real” and we “wake up.” In “waking up” we experience our identity, the identity of the individual, with the universal. We discover that we can develop our capacity to perceive this identity.gurdjieff_bodies

 

Gestalt Processes Simplified  gestfritz

Introjection,  Projection, Confluence and Retroflection.

 

 

An individual must learn to balance and adjust to fitting his/her boundaries into a socially acceptable gestalt.  Many

med1disturbances in individuals arise from the inability to find and maintain the proper balance between self and the rest of the world, boundaries are the way in which discernment is allowed to protect him/her against the threat of being overcrowded with unnecessary stimulation from the rest of the world.  We have a great need to form these boundaries and a structure.  Many side effects occur when improper boundaries are not set:  addictions, disease, aches and pains, antisocial behaviors, codependency, and many more which I am sure you can identify without my help.

 

 

 

INTROJECTION—-Introjections are undigested attitudes, ways of acting, feeling and evaluating,  that we swallowed whole, usually from our primary caretakers, however anyone who was a main character in our early lives would be a person to whom we looked as a “rule giver”.  Introjects are undiscerned pieces of the whole which we  never analyzed before we took them into our psychological system; they often form the SHOULDS and OUGHT TO’s in our make-up.  To be REAL and in touch with our own integrity and morality we must digest and master what is truly our own, truly a part of the personality.  Bit if we simply accept these rules and beliefs whole-hog and gestparentuncritically, on someone else’s say so, or because they are fashionable or safe or traditional or unfashionable or dangerous or revolutionary—they lie heavily on us—introjects become undigested materials. They are still foreign bodies even though they may have taken up residence in our minds.  Many times, one can see blocks of energy around the stomach area (unusual protection of the undigested material).  The dangers of introjections are two fold; first of all, the man who introjects never gets a chance to develop his own personality, because he is so busy holding down the foreign bodies he has swallowed whole.  The more introjects he has saddled himself with, the less room there is for him to express or even discover what he himself is.  And in the second place, introjections contributes concepts, you may find yourself torn to bits in the process of trying to reconcile them.  And this is a fairly common experience today.  We end up incorporating into ourselves standards, attitudes, ways of acting and thinking, possibly coming from mother and father, which are not truly ours.  Introjection moves the boundary between ourselves and the rest of the world so far inside ourselves that there is almost nothing of us left.  I look at clients whose  language reflects many shoulds, trying to get permission, etc.  Or one who is very angry and does not have anyway of expressing that anger, so it lies in the stomach area.  Women introject many shoulds around how you are suppose to be a mother/wife…SHOULD, SHOULD,. Until they have had all they can take and develop a physical ailment in the female parts of the body, breasts, uterus, etc.  The extrication of these introjects and the examining and discernment process need to take place in order for healing to occur.  Identifying the Shoulds, and Ought to Bee’s in our lives is one great step to solving the extrication.

 

 

Projection —– Reverse of introjection.

 

As introjection is the tendency to make the self responsible for what actually is part of the environment, so projection is the tendency to make the environment responsible for what originates in the self.  Clinically, we recognize that the disease of paranoia, which is characterized by the development of highly organized system of delusions, is the extreme case of projection…..that is not what we are talking about. Here…this is the projections of which we are all guilty, like the highly aggressive personality who, unable to bear the responsibility for his own wishes, feelings, and gestprojdesires, attaches them to objects or people in the environment who will hold the projection and fit the pattern beautifully.  A person who feels he is being persecuted unfairly, in fact may be making the statement that he would like to persecute others.  That which you have tremendous energy to unload on others, is often very true of SELF….In projection, then, we shift the BOUNDARY between ourselves and the rest of the world a little too much in our own favor—in a manner that makes it possible for us to disavow and disown those aspects of our personalities which we find difficult or offensive or unattractive.  And this is very important….IT IS OUR INTROJECTS THAT LEAD US TO THE FEELINGS OF SELF-CONTEMPT AND SELF-ALIENATION THAT PRODUCE PROJECION.   The over-wary, over-cautious person, who tells you he wants friends and wants to be loved, but who tells you at the same time that “you can’t trust anyone, they’re all out for what they can get,” is a projector par excellence.

 

When working with people listen to how many times they talk about someone else, either positive or negative, (positive projections are as important to own, as are negative ones), they will use You…much of the time, second person in their verbalizations.  Gossip is something that Fritz Perls never allowed in the Gestalt Community…as it was about someone to someone else. instead of face to face,  projections run rampant in gossip.

 

Gestalt work is a very hard-nosed therapy, but, it really stresses honesty with self . If we clean up our own psychology, then, it makes the world a better and more ethical place to be, because we are essentially not going around messing on other people with our projections.  Ask yourself before you are making a judgment of another, are you sure that it is not you, you are talking about?

 

CONFLUENCE….

 

Boundaries are very diffused when we are confluent, as confluence indicates that the individual feels no boundary at all between himself and his environment, when he feels that he and it are one…he is in CONFLUENCE…Parts and whole are indistinguishable from one another…..The person in whom confluence is a severe state cannot tell what he gestboundariess or feels and cannot tell what other people are or feel….He feels all of the feelings and all of the emotions and identity, without boundaries.  As he is unaware of the boundary between himself and others, he cannot make good contact with them.  Nor can he withdraw from them.  Indeed, he cannot even make contact with himself….This has serious social consequences too.  In confluence, ONE DEMANDS LIKENESS AND REFUSES TO TOLERATE ANY DIFFERENCES. We find this in parents whose children become merely extensions of themselves.  Such parents lack the appreciation that their children are bound to be unlike them in at least some respects.  Grammatically, you can pick up confluence to a degree, by the person’s over usage of the word  “we”, speaking for all instead of speaking for SELF.  When one is counseling or listening to another, often there are tears on both sides…or even when tears flow, it is a state of confluence.  Confluence is necessary for a counselor to feel compassion, but also the counselor must have the ability to attach.  The healer can feel and see into the body…but, must become removed from the body to objectify the knowledge. and do what is necessary to heal…

 

 

 

 

 

RETROFLECTION   the last of the Gestalt defense mechanisms…we use to set boundaries…

 

Retroflection, literally means “turning back sharply against.”  The retroflection knows how to draw a boundary line between him and the environment,  and he draws a neat and clean one right down the middle–but he draws it down the middle of himself.  THE INTROJECTOR DOES AS OTHERS WOULD LIKE HIM TO DO, THE PROJECTOR DOES UNTO OTHERS WHAT HE ACCUSES THEM OF DOING TO HIM, THE CONFLUENT PERSON DOESN’T gestaltretrofKNOW WHO IS DOING WHAT TO WHOM, AND THE RETROFLECTOR DOES TO HIMSELF WHAT HE WOULD LIKE TO DO TO OTHERS. When a person retroflex behavior, he treats himself as he originally wanted to treat other persons or objects.  He stops directing his energies outward in attempts to manipulate and bring about changes in the environment that will satisfy his needs; instead, he redirects his activity inwards and substitutes himself in place of the environment as the target for behavior.  To the extent that he does this, he splits his personality into doer and done to.  He literally becomes his own worse energy.

 

 

Again the grammatical usage of the client can reveal which of the processes is working at any given moment…As introjection displays itself in the use of the pronoun “I” when the real meaning is “they;” as projection displays itself in the use of the pronouns,  “you”, “it”, or “they,”  when the real meaning is “I”  as confluence displays itself in the use of the pronoun “we” when the real meaning is in question;  so retroflection displays itself in the use of the reflective, “myself”. The retroflection says, “I am ashamed of myself,” or “I have to force myself to do this job.”   He makes an almost endless series of statements of this sort, all of them based on the surprising conception that he and himself are two different people.

 

 

 

 

 

Recording Your Dreams

Recording Dreams —- (Suggestions for recording your dreams:  Write the first things you remember after awakening: The following does not have to be done in order, but needs to be addressed.  You might have four good dreams each month that can be written and remembered.  Those are the ones you want to work with for continuing enlightenment.  If a dream is to be remembered it is MEANT to be remembered.)dreamrecording

 

 

First impressions of a dream upon awakening:_________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

Date: ______________________________________________________________

Theme: (give your dream a title) ___________________________________________________________________

 

Feeling and sensing of the dream:___________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

Dream as I remember:________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

 

Images, symbols in the dream:________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

 

Characters in the dream:________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

Afterthoughts:

 

Soul Work, Soul Journey, Soul Dreaming—–Journaling Through Individuation  

guided by Gwynne Mayer

“To cease moving and no longer be torn by the tensions of the opposites is equivalent to no longer existing in the cosmos…

Ultimately, it is the wish to recover this lost unity

That has caused man to think of the opposites as complimentary aspects of a single reality.

—Mircea Eliade

 

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When we feel the call, to join our inner world, to move out of our projections and dependence on others, we then, and only then, can find our true soul journey…toward our own ‘individuation’ process, cleansing the need for another to determine our path…we move on.

 

Feel free to answer some of the following questions before you move into the keeping of your own personal soul journal:

 

  1.  What others have gone before you in a way that lays down your path?  Name some of those you admire.  (You can add as many names as you want.)  ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
  2. What personal struggles have you been through that can now be reframed into guidelines along the way?  i.e. situations that have seemed fraught with problems can now be reframed into positive learning experiences with which to be guided.________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
  1.  Name some recent incidents that have caught your attention and made you aware that your path needs to be adjusted, explain. These can be dreams, situations, definitely mind altering situations.________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
  1.  What do I have to give up in my daily life, what thoughts do I have to attend to, in order to follow my own path of healing and consciousness?  Name at least three things you will need to cleanse in the next few months ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
  1.  I envision my path in many ways, but the most primary ways I would like to live my life from this moment forward are the following:________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

 

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This is the moment… Today. What will you release? What dysfunction can you drop? What story will you put to rest? What doubts will you pack away? What door will you close behind you? What choice will you now make? What change will you initiate? What new experience will you invite? What life will you let yourself have? What experience of you can you expand into? How much love will you let in? Can you take in the success and abundance you deserve? Are you ready to allow all of you? Will you share all of you with the rest of the world? Will you shine your Light? Will you…? Will YOU!

Intentional Coaching — Affirmations of Points of Power

(I have taken some of the work of the Secret, Rhonda Byrne, and incorporated some tasks from each of these points of power.  Meditate on these and apply them to your life on a daily basis and see how powerful they allow you to have what you want. This is a step by step approach to affirm for yourself as many of us do not know how to reframe and affirm in words what we need.)

  1.  To harness the force of love in your life to bring something you want or change something you don’t want, the Creation Process is always the same:  Imagine it. Feel it. Receive it. (What are three things you want to change in your life?)

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  1. Your imagination connects you to what you want.  Your desire and feelings of love create the magnetism, the magnetic power, drawing your desire to you! (Find a space that allows your ‘love’ to come through, feeling your heart expand and your mind free of clutter.  (Name three things that allow you to know you are in that space.)

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  1. Imagine yourself being with your desire.  At the same time, feel love for what you’re imagining. (Name three things or processes which you desire and be specific as to how they look to you once they are manifested.)

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  1. Desire what you want with all of your heart because desire is a feeling of love, and you must give love to receive what you love! (Name three ways that you know you are giving love and be specific as to knowing when you are in a ‘love space’.)

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  1. When you imagine anything positive that you want and love, you are harnessing the force of love.  Push your imagination to the limits, and imagine the best and highest that you possibly can of whatever it is that you want. (If you want to leave your creativity on this earth before you go onto the beyond, name three things you want to be remembered for.)

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  1. Whatever desire you can imagine already exists!  It doesn’t matter what it is:  if you can imagine it, it already exists in creation. (Look around you and see if what you desire is present in your life in some form or manner.  Name how that looks to you now.)

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  1. In conversations and in your thoughts say, “Imagine if……” and then complete the sentence with what you want. (Name three things you imagine.)

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  1. Use props.  Surround yourself with items of clothing, pictures, photographs, and relevant objects, so you can imagine and feel the feelings of having what you want.

(Describe in detail the things that you will feng shui around you to bring these creations alive.)___________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

 

 

  1. Your senses are props too.  Use all your senses to help you feel that you have what you want.  Feel it, taste it, smell it, see it, and hear it! (Describe in details how you are sensing, not thinking through this.)____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

 

  1.  When you have completed your part in the creation process, you have moved into a new world that contains the very thing you want even if you can’t see it yet.  Know you will receive it.! (Tell how you will know you are getting what you want.  Describe that in detail.)__________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

 

 

 

Intentional Coaching   —- Following your Intention, Inspiration and Intuition — Manifesting daily, weekly, monthly, yearly all that you are meant to be and more.  Your intuition and wisdom is your best guide in all things.

 

….immediate condition of your life and how you have manifested what you want and don’t want.  Do you know the difference?

  1.  Your existing relationship to Self __________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
  2. Your existing relationship to a partner____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
  3.  Your existing relationship with your children and/or siblings __________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
  4. Your existing relationship to your career _______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
  5. Your existing practice in your Spiritual connection (meditation, crafting, exercise, massage, music, creative arts) ____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

 

  1.  What changes do you want to make in all of the above areas, be specific?

1.____________________________________________________________

2.____________________________________________________________

3.____________________________________________________________

4.____________________________________________________________

5.____________________________________________________________

6.____________________________________________________________

 

Are you serious about your growth Spiritually, Physically and Mentally?  It will happen and IS happening, you are being guided at all times by your inner guides and your relationship to God.  Spend some quality time filling this out so we can speak to it in our next session.  This is for you to understand YOU.  This is not something that you have to turn in, or will be judged. Affirm for yourself:

“Meditation allows me to make conscious contact with my Source and regain my power of intention.”

 

 

Gwynne Mayer  MA

Ying Yang

 

Intentional Coaching —- Following your Intention, Inspiration and Intuition — Manifesting daily, weekly, monthly, all that you are meant to be and more.

 

After forty years of counseling, therapizing, educating and consnulting with clients, friends and loved ones, I have realized that we, as individuals, do not meet our intentions and ultimate purposes in life. This causes a myriad of problems; addiction, depression, mood disorders, neurosis and general problems with well being.

In order to counter these issues with positive outcomes and affirmative actions, I have begun coaching on a weekly, bi-weekly and monthly basis at a minimum cost to those who are committed to their own succeses and aspirations.

This involves individual sessions based on your immediate needs and will focus on the following:

 

 …. immediate condition of your life and how you have manifest what you want and don’t want.       Do you know the difference?

 

…. learning how your hourly and daily actions fit into your overall goals. This includes your connection to family, education, marriage, partnership, career, health, volunteer work and friendships

 

…. develop contiguous daily, weekly and monthly goals that show your true intention. What behaviors do you put in place to portray your true intentions?

 

…. journal your dreams, activating the unconscious to get in touch with your spiritual guidance coming from within. (It is very important to know that your unconscious which is 80% of you, is supporting you.)

 

….Work with a form of your own divination and intuition whether you are Christian, Buddhist, Hindu, Moslem or Jewish.

 

….your intentions and how are you living them out? (behaviors that put all of this in place.)

 

….your inspirations and how you are being inspired to be the best that you can be? How do you take care of your ‘soul’ when it sends you messages?

 

….your daily routines helping or preventing you from having all that you want in life?

weekly accounting of daily activities that support all of the above.

 

….your physical and emotional disciplines in terms of giving you what you need. Enabling you to do what you want? Honoring your sacred space?

 

If you want to make a commitment to this process please call or write for an initial consultation:  gwynne.mayer@gmail.com Website   gwynnemayer.com  phone: 210-393-5349.